Absolutely not scummy. She sounds like she is jealous that things didnt work out for her and that they might work out for you. If you really like this guy, give him a chance regardless of what your friend says. She may be mad about it now, but she will get over it, and if she doesnt then she isnt a very good friend.

how did i miss this?? i like it a lot!!! :D

It's official: you're not a horrible person. Your friend can't reasonably expect to have "dibs" on every single guy she has ever liked or hooked up with once. Nessy is right. . .perhaps you should sit your friend down and just tell her how you feel. She may not agree with you at the end of the day, but at least everything will be out in the open. Good luck!

Hey..I'm doing okay i guess..I'm just dealing with a really tough break up.Its just really hard when you put so much into a relationship and you love the person so much and they just up and leave when someone else makes a move on you and you dont even like the person like that.What happend was one of my old friends came down to do something with some of his family and he came over and kissed me.I just kinda freaked out and smacked him.I didnt really know what else to do.It might not have been the wisest choice but i couldnt realy think of anything else to do.Anyway..i told my x the next time i saw him after it happend.He got mad like i knew he would but it wasnt my fault.Then he blamed the breakup on my mom.Saying that she didtn want me around him and i talked to her about it and he lied.The other night i was hanging out with him because me and my friend gave him and our friend Karen a ride home and it was so hard because him and karen were flirting with each other.I ended up curling up in my friends care and crying.She went to say goodbye and he told her the real reason why he broke up with me.After that i didnt talk much.I couldnt find a reason to.My mind was completely blank and i had nothing to say to anyone.I really didnt feel like talking.I sat at the computer looking at pictures we had took on July 3rd of me and him and cried.It was all i could think of doing.It was the only thing that made sence..Other than that im doing okay..just takeing one day at a time.Hope your doing good.Much Love.

This is a gray area in my opinion. From how you've described their relationship (your friend and the guy) it would seem a-ok to like the guy and/or date him. But, because of how she's reacting I think you need to be conscious of her feelings and opinions even if they seem outlandish, because she's your friend. So, that said, is she the type of friend that you can sit down with and have a heart to heart? I wonder if there is a way you can letter her know that you care about her and want to be mindful of her but express your feelings on the situation at the same time. I don't know if that makes any sense. Any, hope it's helpful, I miss you!

fyi, a little cell phone trivia for you: cell phones don't cause static electricity, so they can't cause fires at gas stations just from talking on them. I know this cause i saw them test it out on Myth Busters! :D
Call me when your phone is all better. Miss you!!!

hmm...I like.

thanks for your kind words.

Everything should turn out okay, It's just sucky right now, but the universe has an interesting way of balancing itself out, so I'm trying to keep a positive mindset, and working twoards making the situation better.

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Sorry to hear about your hard times, I'm glad to hear you're doing so good now.

Glad to see you again!

Good luck and have fun.

-Cat

It sucks when the closest people to you cant realized that you've changed for the better and keep bringing up the past.Its over and done with and as much as some of us would like to we can never go back.We all make mistakes but we wouldnt be human if we didnt.Keep your head up you'll make it threw.