Whatever your friend is going through, I hope she realizes that she can count on you to be there for her.
As for guys, yeah, most of them really have no clue what they want and a lot of them don't know how to pull their heads out of their asses so that they can even begin to figure it out. I feel you and not really knowing what you want, I'm just starting to get an idea of what I want myself, and I'm almost 26.