Friends or More than "Friends"

Jan 02, 2008 - 14:53 PM PST
Am i too the only one who thinks that actions speak louder than words and people play games with themselves and don't even know it? I guess thats why people say "you just got played", or "you playin yourself." Let me explain...

I know alot of people who are involved with one or more person who they call just their "friend".
But i dont buy it. I mean what really defines a boyfriend or girlfriend and where is the line drawn between friend or something more?

1. If it looks like a duck, quack likes a duck, its more than likely an armadillo? NO. its a duck for goodness sake. I mean how many friends do you have that you talk to every single free moment you get and go out with alone every chance you get? How many friends do you constantly talk about to your workmates or other friends about what he or she did for you the other day or what they bought you? more than likely none.

2. Yeah you kissed or had sex but that doesnt mean your more than friends. Are you kidding me? if you have sex with someone on a regular basis you must like them for some reason or another. add that with point number one and what do you get? A "Friend"? i dont think so.

3. You are very upset if you find out you arent the only one your "Friend" is sharing his or her time with. As much as you try to play it cool you can't. So you make sure that they aren't messing with anyone else because you would be hurt and angry. Or you dont want your "friend" to know you are spending time with someone else for the same reasons already pointed out.
The big question is why do you care so much if your just friends?

I can go on and on about this but the point is that you should be honest about where you want this relationship to end up. You can appear to be together and tell each other that you are not. The only people you are fooling are yourselves. There are some people out there who just have people that they do nothing but have sex with, the whole "no strings attached" thing. but that never last because the more intimacy you have with someone the more either one or both of you will develop real feelings. some people wont admit that because they dont want to "Play themselves" thinking the other person may not feel the same way.

If you look like a couple, then you are a couple.
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Friends or More than "Friends"


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Mar 03, 2008 - 19:58 PM

IAmNia on
Yep, that's exactly what I'm going through now, as I mentioned earlier. Man does it bother the hell out of me! Good points made.
Feb 04, 2008 - 22:00 PM

Jas on
I agree. Our society has sadly lead people to believe that they can have care free relationships with one another with little or no consequence. Either you in, or you out, right...? That can be taken so many different ways...ha
Jan 17, 2008 - 11:39 AM

kat0226 on
Couldn't say it better myself although I must admit I was that person at one time.
Jan 02, 2008 - 20:44 PM

crazyRed on
I completely agree. Been through a lot of this kind of thing lately.