A Tired Helping Hand

Feb 24, 2008 - 20:29 PM PST

It just seems like so many people come to me with their problems. I don't have a degree in psychology or anything. I'm not old and wise. I guess it's because they can tell I'm caring and don't mind listening most of the time. I try to stay as objective as possible and see all sides of the story. Last year was my year to meet girls with the "abused or neglected girlfriend/wife" story. So many of them no matter how much you tell them to leave the guy, decide to stay. Despite all of my efforts and examples and nights out at the bar with them, they just went right back! So, I kind of gave up hope on helping and giving constructive well thought out criticism and now I just nod and offer a hug if needed, but really try to stay as uninvolved as possible. These people have shaved me of so much energy. I allowed it. I know I did. I just couldn't say no when I saw the text pleading to please meet them for coffee to talk. If you're like me you may get so overwhelemed and it starts to weigh you down. Their problems and tears sometimes become your own. You may feel better because you think you're helping them, but it's really really bad for you and can effect you at home with your own relationship. So, my advice to you is give the advice once if you'd like and be there for them, but don't allow them to soley rely on you. Those people are weak and relying on you is not really helping them grow on their own and get out of their crazy situation. Some people just never learn at all and cause even more damage to themselves. Their is only so much you can do, but you can't save the world.