In response to Jed on "hooking up"

Jan 04, 2008 - 13:44 PM PST

Jed, It most deffinitly does not make you weird that you are not into one night stands. In fact, it only makes you more human and less of a beast if you ask me.

Our parents always warned the girls growing up "boys only have one thing on their mind". Which isnt always true but that one thing is always on everyones mind. Some people say sex isnt a big deal. But I think thats a crazy oppinion. If you ask me throwing your body around to whom ever to "get off" or to just impress the partner is a big deal. In fact, a huge deal. And I bet everyone has had regret. But once you lost your v-card...its like you cant go back so your already rotton. So we ask ourselvs "Then why stop?" to make it seem okay. Which isnt true at all. Mistakes happen. But why be like everyone else. People should have more respect for their bodies. Every person you sleep with...your sleeping with all the people they slept with. Repeat that in your head and maybe it will make sense. Sex isnt a game. Although some people like to betray their body as if it is.

Sex is meant to be for someone special. Its emotional and physical. Dont sell your self cheap for the moment.

Have you ever heard the song by the band Brand New called "sic transit gloria". I suggest you go look up the lyrics and listen to it. Take a look at these lyrics..

He is the lamb, she is the slaughter.
She's moving way too fast and all he wanted was to hold her.
Nothing that he tells her is really having an effect.
He whispers that he loves her,
but she's probably only looking for se-...

(Up the stairs: the station where
the act becomes the art of growing up.)

So much more than he could ever give.
A life free of lies and a meaningful relationship.
He keeps his hands pinned down at his sides.
He waits for it to end
and for the aching in his guts to subside.

So where it says the becomes the part of growing up...Meaning everyone is doing it so "die young and save your self" so you dont have to.

I Respect my body as well. I know like everyone else I have made my own mistakes and share of bad decisions. Which is my buisness. It shouldnt be anyone elses about who slept with who and oh that persons a slut. When you dont know.

ITs okay to want to find someone who respect their body as much as you respect yours.

I hate knowing that some of my friends have only experienced such a thing drunk because its the only time like you said "A lot of people must be drunk in order to hook up with people. I think it's because they can't deal with how depressing the situation is sober. If they went into the elopement with a clear head, they'd be like "Ugh, this is dirty and sad,""

Im all about group dates and getting to know people. Or having guys as friends. But the gut feeling of when i know where they are getting at scares me.That they only want in your pants that first night. They dont know you or where you have been and they dont even seem to care. But you think maybey just mabye theyw ill stick around if you give them want they are all about. You regret it later though. And the whole time your wishing it would end. It can make some people hate sex.( Which I think is even more depressing then the whole doing it drunk situation.)

When you know the other person is just wanting to get in your pants and you stick with what you know and keep to it but after they try and try and you finnaly give in you know your going to regret it the next morning. Because nothing sucks more then giving in.



What im trying to say is...you want to enjoy it not regret it. Dont be the person who goes through their deck of cards in 2 seconds only to find they lost in the end.

Don't give in.

The people who want to be door knobs and think its not a big deal..will only have like you said change ...the kind where they cant feel so much anymore, and a bunch of fucking regret. Those are the real sluts. People who dont respect them selvs.

"The fever, the focus.
The reasons that I had to believe you weren't too hard to sell.
Die young and save yourself.
The tickle, the taste of...
It used to be the reason I breathed but now it's choking me up.
Die young and save yourself."