Mr. Brightside

Jan 22, 2008 - 00:14 AM PST

Ok, so here's the scenario. About a month ago, my wife goes and hangs out with this kid that she knew when she was little, and they ended up talking until 5 in the morning. Ok, so I find out this guy is in some trouble. Mind you, he's 22, I'm 31, my wife is 27. Ok, I've painted the original picture. So, we'll call him Jim.

Jim just got out of jail 3 and a half months ago. He's cleaned himself up, but his mom is kind of...bi-poler (for lack of a better term). She decided after he put $40 in her gas tank that she wanted to kick him out of her house for stealing from her (with the debit card she gave him to use for, um, gas and stuff).

Anyway, my wife and I talked, and we agreed he could stay at our house for a bit until he got on his feet. Jim came with me on a business trip and I got to spend some time with him to find out he's a really decent guy he actually is. I had some good times haning out with him

So, here enters my dilemma. I have been working a lot and out a lot and not spending as much time as I would like with my wife. My wife, (we'll say Marie), Marie, has been spending massive anounts of time with Jim, and I'm starting to get really jealous of the time they're spending with each other, not to mention the staying up late, sleeping little, smoking cigarettes (which isn't that big of a deal for a smoker, which my wife is not), and starting to drink nearly daily (not drunk drink, but drink daily where it would have bee AT MOST in the past a drink in a week, sometimes a month.

Marie says she's distanced herself from me, and she's saying that God had something He's working with her on, but she can't tell me what it is right now.

My problem is I'm running in a turmoil. I see them sometimes almost flirting right in front of me (I can't tell you if they are or not, or if I'm just reading things into it. My problem is I'm jealous, and I don't know what to do??? It's starting to affect my work and daily life (i.e. I'm typing in this blog at 3am in the morning, when I should be going to bed so I can to to work in the morning, but I had to get this out).

I hat feeling this way. It's gotten my guts wrenching. Jim is such a cool dude. He helps out around the house. He also makes my wife life, and my wife seems to....No, my wife has better conversation and has a better time with him than she does with me.

Our Friend recently went through a really rought seperation that is going through divorce court right now. She was having an "emotional" affair with another man. Maybe not something physical, but basically this other man was moving in and stealing the heart of his wife. He lost his wife, whi is now with another man that has gotten her pregnant.

I am so scared that is going to happen. Here's the problem, though. I don't want to kick Jim out on his ass just because I'm psycho jealous. I'm trying not to be, but it just seems like it's gonna happen, if it hasn't already. I talked to Marie tonight, and we ALWAYS say I LOVE YOU berfore we hang up the phone. NOt this time! She always calls to tell me goodnight. Not tonight.

Am I being overparanoid?? Should I try to tell Jim to get his stuff and go before something like that would happen? I get these pictures in my head that just make me sick to my stomach. like, gut wrenching sick.

I feel like a fool talking about this when there is no proving evidence that anything has actually happend, and I don't know what to do. Please, if there is someone out there that can help me calm down, I would love your feedback. Maybe I have trust issues with my wife, or just trust issues period with a male and Marrried female living in a house that is somtimes unoccupied except for them. I work out of town one day a week, minimum, and stay in a hotl.

They Jeaolousy lyrics from MR. Brightside by the Killers really describe what I'm going through right now.