This is something i posted in the Love forum. might be helpful? it is just my own experience...

I believe, that if one has found true love and acceptance of ones self, then being in love with love will not occur. Love becomes an openness to life rather than a pursuit of something that you think will make you happy. Being in love with love is like being in love with alcohol, or drugs, or any temporary, transitory solution to your unhappiness.
If you can love yourself and accept things as they are, then you can find love for the moment and all the people in it. Love starts with being happy with yourself. "Being in love" occurs when your love extends particularly deep for someone else resonating that same energy back towards you. When your energies combine, the love between you becomes more than just the sum, it become something bigger than you and that other person. If you can let go of yourself at that point, let go of all your ego, that love can thrive and grow. But if you hold onto the love you give, the love between you and your other will never be more than both of your egos, both of your insecurities and lusts.
You can only be in love by letting it go, letting what is bigger than yourself do what you cannot. Do not be in love with love. Love yourself and all others, i guarantee you it will come back.